Pain During Sex? There’s Hope In A Little-Known Treatment Option

About one-third of women experience pain during sex, says a new report. But treatment is available.

About one-third of women say they have pain during sex, according to a comprehensive new series of reports on the sexual lives of Americans published this week in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Debby Herbenick, one of the study’s authors, told me that number “surprised” her — she didn’t think so many women would report that kind of pain.

But it doesn’t surprise me — because I’m one of them.

Here’s my story:

Earlier this year, to put it bluntly, I started having pain during sex. For a while, I ignored it, telling myself it was probably just a passing problem that would resolve on its own. It didn’t.

I went to see my fantastic ob/gyn, Beth Hardiman, the woman who delivered my two children, and whom I trust with the most intimate details of my life. She did an exam and told me my vaginal muscles were locked in permanent spasm, like if you gripped your shoulders up to your ears and never let go.

“You need pelvic floor massage,” she said. (You can imagine what I envisioned.) “I’m giving you a prescription for pelvic floor physical therapy.”

Now, I thought I was a savvy health care consumer, having written on the topic as a journalist for the past 10 years. Plus, I’ve had two babies, so I thought I was fairly familiar with the pelvis. Wrong. I had never, ever heard of pelvic floor physical therapy. And I never realized how many complex systems — reproductive, urinary, gastrointestinal, neurological, psychological, and musculoskeletal — can be involved in pelvic pain.

Dr. Hardiman told me that many doctors hadn’t heard of it either. And if they did, they pooh-poohed the field as a bunch of amateurs blithely assigning kegel exercises to their patients. But she said so many of her patients complain of painful sex and related problems that pelvic floor physical therapy, as a specialty, should be far more recognized and respected. She gave me a list of 25 pelvic floor physical therapists in the region. The first five I called were completely booked and not taking new patients.

Then I found Rachael Maiocco, a pelvic floor physical therapist in Chestnut Hill, at the Brigham and Women’s Hospital Department of Rehabilitation Services. There was a three-month wait to see her, but eventually, I was scheduled for eight visits. And even though my problem was “pain during intercourse,” Ms. Maiocco told me if she tweaked the diagnosis slightly to focus on a specific function, for instance, “pain during a gynecological exam,” and a specific problem, like “muscle spasm,” insurance would likely cover it. It worked.

So what, exactly, is pelvic pain and how can physical therapy help?

According to the American Physical Therapy Association, pelvic pain in women is an “umbrella term” that includes a range of pain in various areas, including the external genitals, vaginal muscles, pelvic muscles, tailbone or coccyx, and bladder, among others. Though many women experience pelvic pain, the APTA notes, “it is poorly understood rarely discussed.”

On my first visit, Ms. Maiocco — upbeat, young, and with an easy manner — offered a quick tutorial in pelvic anatomy, and told me we’d do massage, biofeedback and bladder retraining.

The areas she focuses on “include the pelvic floor soft tissue (that is, muscles, fascia, skin); the pelvic girdle (the bony pelvis); the pelvic organs (bladder, bowels, uterus), and the many nerves running through the region.” Ms. Maiocco (who recently left the Brigham for another job) treats young women and old, those with prolapse and incontinence problems stemming from childbirth, as well as women who have been sexually abused.

In physical therapy, she says, the practitioner can address all of the facets of the pelvic floor, in addition to many other systems and surrounding tissue, the hip joints, the spine, the abdominals. “It is assumed we will treat the muscles, which of course we do,” she says. “But we also
manipulate different systems, for example the performance of the bladder and bowels through bladder and bowel training.”

One of Ms. Maiocco’s colleagues, Meghan Z. Markowski, a physical therapist also at the Brigham, tells me that standard estimates suggest that between 16-20% of women will experience pelvic pain in some capacity in their lifetime. But clearly that’s a gross underestimate, given that this condition is so frequently kept secret. Nevertheless, she says, “there are many good, evidence-based research papers on the effectiveness of pelvic floor PT.” (You can see some of them here and here.)

Even after the first visit, which did, in fact, include a little pelvic floor massage, (that’s “soft tissue mobilization” in PT parlance, and details will come later if you stick with me here) I started to feel some relief.

But did it ultimately solve my problem and what was it really like? Stay Tuned.

*Coming Next, Part II: Biofeedback and a Bladder Diary: My Personal Journey Into Pelvic Floor PT.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_P6MUW3QAKS2ECJNUSK244UPPEU Stephanie

    Awesome, awesome, awesome. Seeing this covered is exactly the kind of thing that makes me feel like we’ve actually made a little bit of progress! Keep it coming.

  • R.

    And I thought this was primarily a post menopausal woman’s problem! Women friends in my age group often discuss painful penetration with a sense of resignation. Many struggle with trying to connect with a new partner, and then what? If we’re not able to comfortable have intercourse, how will the relationship progress? Partnered friends have the dilemma of either avoiding or enduring penetration, experiencing a range from discomfort to pain, often to the point of bleeding. This adds the component of vaginal dryness as well as vaginal stenosis. I wonder if the therapies you talk about could also remediate these problems in addition to prescriptive and OTC lubricating products.

    • Rachel Zimmerman

      R –

      Thanks for your thoughtful comments. My understanding is that these therapies can help both pre-and post-menopausal women with their various issues. All of us can get (at least some) relief. It’s just a matter of locating the right provider, someone who “gets it.” Please contact me if you need help finding a pelvic floor physical therapist in your city.

      Best,

      Rachel Zimmerman

  • Melanie

    It is so good to see this being discussed…there’s so little information and so much need for it. Thank you!

  • Kate T.

    Fascinating! We definitely need more coverage of women’s issues like this one… keep it coming, I look forward to reading more. I had significant pelvic pain during my pregnancy – is this in the realm of what pelvic floor PT addresses?

    • Angela

      Yes! Pelvic floor PT is a great resource for pelvic pain problems during pregnancy. Go to http://www.apta.org (American Physical Therapy Association) and use the “Find a PT” link in the upper right. Choose “Women’s Health” for expertise. Or, if you’re in the Boston area, I’d be happy to email you the list of providers I used for my postpartum recovery! (angela@womensaction.org). Good luck!

  • Dina Fraize

    Thank you so much for your honest and informative information. As a midwife in central Ma, this is an issue that i see often. We need to get the message to women that they are not alone and that there is help out there.

  • Angela Hughes Halliwell

    Fantastic start, Rachel! I can’t wait to see what comes next! This is exactly the type of coverage I’ve LOVE to see about women’s health, particularly pelvic floor issues and resolutions like PT. As a huge fan of women’s health PT (I discovered it after my 2nd baby when I needed significant focus on pelvic floor damage as well as other musculoskeletal pain problems associated with postpartum muscle weakness/laxity) I’m often recommending folks like Rachel Maiocco and also the AMAZING women’s health team at Marathon PT in Newton and 3 other locations. They’re led by Jessica McKinney who’s also an active member of our board at WAI, a local nonprofit that seeks to educate women about postpartum physical recovery (www.womensaction.org) We can’t wait to see more! THANK YOU!

  • Brooke

    Thank you for being willing to talk about your experience with painful intercourse and the physical therapy treatments. I hope that it gives more women courage to seek treatment for their similar conditions.

  • Chris

    Thank you Rachel for covering this important neglected, yet very prevalent problem. Vulvodynia is the most common cause of painful intercourse. The National Vulvovydnia Association (www.nva.org) has a wealth of information and services, including a health care provider referral list, available for women suffering with this problem.

  • http://wbur.argosit.es/about/rachel-zimmerman/ Rachel Zimmerman

    Hi –

    I respectfully and wholeheartedly disagree! Dr. Hardiman delivered both of my daughters with expertise, compassion and wisdom. My husband and I continue to recommend her unconditionally to all of our pregnant friends.

    I am sorry you had a negative experience.

    Rachel ZImmerman