Best Kept Secret For Postpartum Depression? Help At Home

Author/doula Ananda Lowe with her two- month-old daughter (Courtesy)

Author/doula Ananda Lowe with her two-month old daughter (Courtesy)

By Ananda Lowe
Guest Contributor

In 2010, while pregnant with my only child, I lined up a postpartum doula before I even chose the hospital where I would give birth.

I had worked with new families throughout the Boston area for fifteen years, mainly as a professional birthing coach (another type of doula), and occasionally as the postpartum type myself. So I knew getting help for myself after childbirth was the first thing I had to have in place.

I’d seen up close how much help vulnerable new mothers need and how rarely they get it. And I was well aware of the more-common-than-you think risk of postpartum depression. I also knew that this kind of depression or related mood disorders could take hold well after what most people understand to be the “postpartum” period.

I’d asked my therapist if they ever “put mothers away” should we become too overwrought or depressed or gripped by intense, irrational anxiety about our new babies? She immediately responded: “There would be no place to put them all.”

So why a doula, you may ask? To put it plainly, a doula can help assure that a vulnerable new mother is not alone in the world. Which is to say, any new mother.

The person I contacted for help was Brenda Morris, the wife of one of my best friends. I’d previously encouraged Brenda to become a doula, and now I called to say “I found your first client. It’s me.” Brenda was a private aide to the elderly, the middle child of thirteen, a good cook, and the mother of twins whom she breastfed for three years. Though not formally trained as a doula, she had all the qualifications I needed, and my partner and I hired her to take care of me for ten hours per week after the baby came.

According to the doula certifying organization DONA International, a postpartum doula:

·Offers education, companionship and nonjudgmental support

·Assists with newborn care, family adjustment, meal preparation and light household tidying

·Offers evidence-based information on infant feeding, emotional and physical recovery from birth, infant soothing and coping skills for new parents and makes appropriate referrals when necessary

Another national organization, CAPPA, says the doula’s role “is not to take over complete care of the newborn, but to educate and support the family so that they will feel empowered to care for their newborn themselves.”

While I was pregnant, I knew I was not planning to be my own birth doula, postpartum doula or lactation counselor, even though I am trained in those roles; people who spoke to me casually at parties assumed I wouldn’t need the guidance. However, beyond the technical definition of a doula, she does something more than educate clients and make sure the chores get done.

Social support is consistently identified as an important factor in the prevention of postpartum depression and mood disorders, whether the support is provided by family and friends, professionals, or trained volunteers (DONA does a good job of compiling the research here). Much of the rest of the world still knows this, but as Hillary Brenhouse put it in The Daily Beast:

It is true that hiring a postpartum helper is far less expensive in, say, Hong Kong than in the U.S. But the problem is not one of money. The problem is that no one recognizes the new mother as a recuperating person, and she does not see herself as one.

After my daughter was born, it became harder for me to continue with my profession which required me to leave home in the middle of the night to attend other women’s births. So I shifted into leading support groups for new mothers at places like the former Isis Parenting in Boston and Diaper Lab in Cambridge. And I have to agree with Brenhouse; the refrain that I hear from new mothers has become heartbreakingly predictable.

For example, I recently gave a group of mothers the Positive Postpartum Plan created by Belmont therapist Mara Acel-Green, who specializes in the prevention and treatment of postpartum mood disorders. Acel-Green created a worksheet for new mothers to fill in the names of friends and family who can help with things like meals, emotional support and watching the baby so the mother can take a shower. The women in my group looked uncomfortable when I asked them to participate in this activity, and they hesitated to pick up the pens I gave them to fill out their worksheets. Finally, one six-week postpartum mother looked at me ruefully and said “I feel like my window for this has already closed.”

To be honest, I hear that all the time.

Reflecting on my own experience, we had hired Brenda as our doula for a full five months. I breastfed up to fifteen times a day, but during those months I did not grocery shop, cook, do laundry, or take out the trash or recycling. Once at a staff meeting at Isis Parenting, a supervisor recommended that I not share that part of my story with mothers in the support groups I led. I figured she thought it would sound unseemly of me, and needlessly inspire jealously in other moms.

It’s true, my perspective may have been naïve, as I assumed other women would simply be inspired by my family’s example and run out to get the help they deserved. But various factors probably preclude this: at the top of the list is our society’s badly mistaken assumption that going on maternity leave is akin to going on vacation. Right after that is the issue of paying for support that most people don’t realize they may desperately need, and therefore have not budgeted for.

Postpartum doulas charge an average of $25-$35 hourly in the Boston area. To an extent, my family was able to afford the expense. But I admit that my partner and I were not prepared to have the necessary discussions about the impact on our family finances that having a baby would bring. We just spent the money without much of a plan, which I do not necessarily recommend regardless of financial circumstances.

Designating $1,000 or more for postpartum help feels out of reach for many of the families I talk with. And yet the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is nearly $30,000. Health insurance reimbursement for the cost of a doula is theoretically possible, but still rare. American families across the economic spectrum live miles or even oceans away from extended family, who would have been the assumed postpartum helpers anytime up until the last half century or so. For many in my generation, that once-obvious support system has vanished, and to quote Brenhouse again: “it certainly wasn’t replaced with anything.”

That is, unless your own mother is retired but still able-bodied and you get along well enough that you can import her for at least a few weeks.

Or, you happen to know about doulas.

According to research, doulas are credited with reducing the incidence of postpartum depression. In 2009, CommonHealth’s Rachel Zimmerman and I co-authored The Doula Guide to Birth: Secrets Every Pregnant Woman Should Know (Bantam Books). We originally
became acquainted when I had been Rachel’s postpartum doula, and she wrote this in the introduction of our book:

I don’t think it’s exaggerating to say Ananda, an experienced birth and postpartum doula, helped keep my marriage and my life intact…. With Ananda in my house, rather than postpartum insanity, I experienced something akin to postpartum elation.

I actually had moments — rare for me, a dark, cynical New Yorker — when I thought, I have it all: two healthy daughters, a job at a great newspaper, a wonderful husband — and a clean house.

That was Rachel’s tongue-in-cheek conclusion to a more serious story. It was the description of her second birth, but her first had resulted in a genuine case of postpartum depression.

As Rachel’s doula, I started the job about two days after she came home from the hospital. She handed me the baby and went outside for an hour to exercise, probably her most important depression-management tool. I filled up the kitchen with trays of food, then she came home to nurse the baby while we talked. We did this three times a week for a month. On the last day her husband asked if I would continue working with the family for half a year, and I agreed. A longer-term doula contract such as this is not typical, but when I became pregnant three years later, I knew exactly what kind of support to seek out for myself.

I was at risk for postpartum depression, and discussed it with my nurse-midwife and various other healthcare providers. Being the recipient of our doula’s support had an obvious and profound effect on the well-being of our family; perhaps even more than the medical care I received (not that I would give that up either). But I understand what Rachel Zimmerman meant about “postpartum elation,” a feeling I’ve never had with antidepressants.

Human kindness plus the arrival of a new baby equals an incredible high, or at least it has the potential to do so. Other factors known to support postpartum mental health played out in my situation too: a fairly smooth birth, success at breastfeeding, a therapist on hand, and other social supports in addition to our doula (including a meal train delivered by friends for about fifteen weeks).

Postpartum depression seemed to pass me by in the first half of the year when I had so much support. Later in my baby’s life, I remember at times having what are known as intrusive thoughts, in which my anxiety about her safety went off the charts. It was usually for just a few minutes, which was enough to leave me shaken but that I could also shake off.

That’s when I questioned my therapist about whether postpartum depression could still take hold and a mother could be put away; I have since learned how primary this fear is for so many mothers.

After the first few months of my baby’s life, it’s my sense that my healthcare providers were not on the lookout for postpartum mood disorders. Massachusetts is still in the early stages of attempting to offer screening to all mothers in the early weeks and months after birth. Awareness of PPMD in the later months may not be as readily on the radar. And I know from my own work in Maternal Child Health over nearly two decades that policy and practice can take years to change.

Truthfully, new mothers can benefit from emotional and social support for more than a few days in the hospital, for more than a few weeks postpartum, and for more than the first six months of parenthood. A study released last month by Murdoch Childrens Research Institute found that “maternal depression is more common four years after the birth of a first child than at any time in the first 12 months postpartum.”

When my doula was present, I didn’t necessarily talk with her directly about postpartum depression. But it might be fair to say I’ve never had so much support in my life. I would not expect a doula to shoulder sole responsibility for preventing severe postpartum tragedies, but I do wonder how many have been averted by arranging this type of support for mothers who might have otherwise been at risk.

Every so often I gratefully remember my postpartum experience, and I think about what a difference those ten hours a week can make.

Note: Regarding fees for postpartum doula services, some facilities such as Boston Medical Center and the Cambridge Birth Center provide doula services free of charge to low-income clients.

Ananda Lowe is a parenting educator, doula and mother. She lives in Somerville, Mass.

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    business man too we both operating provision store, on October 1st 2010 me
    and my husband embank on a trip to South Africa,on our way back,we had a terrible
    accident,that took my husband’s life,while i was rushed to the hospital,by
    god grace,i was still living,after a year and seven month,when my husband
    were passed away,a man came to my house,and ask me to get married to him,
    unknown, that he was HIV positive and i never bordered to conduct a check
    up test with him,before,i accepted him into my life,why,because,he was so
    cute,gentle and handsome young man,he was so caring.i never look at
    him,like one that would be hiv positive.after two year of our marriage,my
    body system began to weak up,all day i feel dizzy and lazy,and i began to
    lose weight as well, so i went for a check up test ,for
    [fever,hiv/aid,malaria],the result, show me that, i am HIV positive.so i
    was afraid,that,i would die,so, i were running from hospitals,churches and
    native doctors,searching for cure, because i didn’t want to die.one day i
    went to a pastor’s house,i told him my problem;as i was telling the pastor
    my problem, there was one man which was with us,which i never look at his
    face,the pastor prayed for me,on my way out , this same man,who was siting
    with us,called me,i was like asking myself why this man was calling me, so
    i just manage to wait to hear out what he will say,he told me that,he will
    like to introduce me to this spell caster man, his name is HIOYA,SO
    i JUST SAID thanks and leaved,i never wanted to go and see this man called HIOYA,but a mind,ask me to go for a try,so i went there,i meant him and i explain everything to him,he cast a spell on me and he told me,after two weeks,i should go for a hiv check up test again,after two weeks,i went for the hiv test,which the result shows me that i am now HIV NEGATIVE,whaoooooooo. i was like mad at the hospital,very happy…..if you have any problem you are facing now…..

    HE IS SPECIALIZING IN THE FOLLOWING SPELL.
    love spell
    marriage spell
    divorce spell
    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) If you always have bad dreams.
    (3) If you want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) If you want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) If you want to be rich.
    (7) If you want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.
    (10) If you want to stop your divorce.
    (11) If you want to divorce your husband.
    (12) If you want your wishes to be granted.
    (13) Pregnancy spells to conceive baby
    (14) Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage
    (15) Stop your marriage or relationship from breaking apart.
    (16) If you have any sickness like (H I V), (CANCER) or any sickness.
    (17) If you need prayers for deliverance for your child or yourself.
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  • Henry Westwood

    I want to testify of what a spell caster did for me and my hubby.we have been married since 2007 without a sign of pregnancy or conceiving.I went off birth control then and did not have a period.my gyro gave me progesterone to jump-start a period and it did.,but i did not have another one.we did another round of progesterone followed by 100mg clomid for 5 months,we followed all doctors instructions but all to no avail.I have been buying ovulation kits pregnancy test AND i finally got 3 test when i was ovulating! So ever since that we been trying for years now! Well i was very confused because i keep taking ept test AND they all keep turning out to b negative! I really want a baby girl while my hubby want a baby boy LOLL! I think maybe we are just trying to hard, What i can tell you is that its been so many years now and i still yet do not have my period??nobody to help because every body around us was already at the verge of losing their faith on us.no were to run to until one faithful day i was reading a magazine and i stumble on a page were i found topic or a head line {A SPELL CASTER} who can heal someone from HIV AND AIDS,bring back your EX,enlarge your BREAST,help you win a VISA LOTTERY,losing your WEIGHT and even get six PACKS AND flatten your BELLY,I gave him a try and before i could no it Dr agumagu rescue me from my problem by casting a spell for me and told me to go and make love with my hubby,then nine months after the spell and making love with my husband i delivered a twins A BOY AND A GIRL.This spell caster name is Dr agumagu so many people have witness his wonderful work..He is nice, contact him on agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com if you are in any predicament•Thanks so very much!!

  • Henry Westwood

    My Name is Emil.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single…when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he gonna help me…i don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to Us the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he’s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday…My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don’t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he’ will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck:agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com.Once Again His Email Address Is: agumaguspelltemple@gmail.com

  • Trucker Stacey

    My name is tucker stacey.This is a very joyful day of my life because of the help Dr.Trust has rendered to me by helping me get my ex husband back with his magic and love spell. i was married for 6 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr.Trust email on the internet on how he help so many people to get thier ex back and help fixing relationship.and make people to be happy in their relationship. i explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. i am really enjoying my marriage, what a great celebration. i will keep on testifying on the internet because Dr.Trust is truly a real spell caster. DO YOU NEED HELP THEN CONTACT DOCTOR TRUST NOW VIA EMAIL: Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or call +2348156885231 or ultimatespellcast@gmail.com. He is the only answer to your problem and make you feel happy in your relationship. .

  • Trucker Stacey

    My name is tucker stacey.This is a very joyful day of my life because of the help Dr.Trust has rendered to me by helping me get my ex husband back with his magic and love spell. i was married for 6 years and it was so terrible because my husband was really cheating on me and was seeking for a divorce but when i came across Dr.Trust email on the internet on how he help so many people to get thier ex back and help fixing relationship.and make people to be happy in their relationship. i explained my situation to him and then seek his help but to my greatest surprise he told me that he will help me with my case and here i am now celebrating because my Husband has change totally for good. He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. i am really enjoying my marriage, what a great celebration. i will keep on testifying on the internet because Dr.Trust is truly a real spell caster. DO YOU NEED HELP THEN CONTACT DOCTOR TRUST NOW VIA EMAIL: Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or call +2348156885231 or ultimatespellcast@gmail.com. He is the only answer to your problem and make you feel happy in your relationship.

  • Emiliano Babarah

    Oh my God, I’m so glad to tell everyone the real thing that happen to me…My name is EMILIANO BABARAH. If i refuse to share this testimony it means i am selfish to my self and to people i love so much whom might have similar problems, March 16th about something 7:23pm after taken our dinner my husband got crazy started calling a lady name Melisa I love you, i was so mad and started crying like a baby…then my husband left home for the idiot called Melisa, and never return back home then i believed when he uthen nderstand his self he will surly come back to apology, but instead he left me So i complained to my friend she told me she was having such problems in her marriage until she was introduce to DR ORIOMON who specializes in bringing back broken homes and broken marriages DR ORIOMON cast a spell for me in May 4th surprisingly my husband came home May 6th apologizing that i should forgive him that it will never happen again, i was so glad and gave the thanks to DR ORIOMON who save my marriage, if you are having similar problem you can contact him and His email address is (oriomonspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) you can still save your marriage if u really love your husband.

    Thanks EMILIANO BABARAH_USA

  • Shirley Brett

    WOW!! This is indeed a shocking and real Testimony i have ever seen..I visited a forum here on the internet on the 20TH OF MAY 2014, after my husband divorced me and my marriage of 8 years was broken and i was completely heartbroken and all hope was lost because i have tried all means to bring my husband back to me after much begging and did everything possible to make sure that he comes back, but nothing worked out for me…. And i saw a tremendous testimony of this mighty and powerful spell caster called Lord Lugard on the forum.. And i saw how Lord Lugard reunited a marriage and brought the Husband of a woman back to her in just 24 hours..I never believed it, because i never heard nor learnt anything about magic before..Nobody would have been able to convince me about magic spells, not until Lord Lugard did it for me and restored my marriage of 8 years back to me and brought my husband back to me in the same 24 hours just as i read on the internet..i was really surprised and amazed when my husband came to my house and knelt down begging for my forgiveness and for me to accept him back.. I am indeed short of words, and i don’t know how much to express my gratitude to you Lord Lugard.. you are indeed a God sent to me and my entire life and family.. he did his work just as he guaranteed me in 24 hours and it yielded a positive result to me and i was able to get my Husband back. right now my Husband has falling so much in love with me and my kids like never before. This spell casting isn’t brain washing but he opened up his eyes to see how much i love and needed him, i really don’t know how best to appreciate you Lord Lugard for bringing joy into my life and family, and now i am a happy woman once again.. here is his website: http://miracletemplespells.webs.com Email: miracletemple@live.com… Mrs Shirley Brett from Texas City..

  • Mullar Sharron

    Hi everyone act there.. my name is MULLAR SHARRON I AM FROM GERMANY i will never forget the help DR.TRUST render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how dr.trust help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of dr.trust i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours.he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don’t you give Dr.trust a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using dr.trust to save my marriage. contact him via (ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM) tel +2348156885231…

  • Mullar Sharron

    Hi everyone act there.. my name is MULLAR SHARRON I AM FROM GERMANY i will never forget the help DR.TRUST render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how dr.trust help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of dr.trust i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours.he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don’t you give Dr.trust a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using dr.trust to save my marriage. contact him via (ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM) tel +2348156885231.

  • Mullar Sharron

    Hi everyone act there.. my name is MULLAR SHARRON I AM FROM GERMANY i will never forget the help DR.TRUST render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how dr.trust help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of dr.trust i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours.he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don’t you give Dr.trust a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using dr.trust to save my marriage. contact him via (ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM) tel +2348156885231

  • Dumez Gracy

    Hello every one i am a German citizen but with my family here i Canada, i had some problems in my marriage because thought i keep some secrets from him before we get married and i was unable to get pregnant because my husband hate it to sex with me that again develop to my filter problem but before we get married he so much love me and i love him as much so i decide to search for a solution on marriage site and from friends and i find so many spiritual doctors then i contacted three of them one after the other but they all disappointed me till my family seeks for divorce and he happily divorce me because he already find another lady. so while i was alone with pains i still look for solution every where till a meet with a friend of mine that just came from Germany then she direct me to this site where i read about great oshogumspelltemple@live.com on how he solve marriage, relationships, family , healing and so many testimony about him then me and my friend decide to contact despite i he told me about the materials that i must provide i just have to do all that he told me because of what other persons said about him. three days after we have done all he ask me to do, he said he have done everything i did not know how it will work because i could even contact my husband again he already block but i was so sup-rice Hashberg call our home line to ask of me. well we are happily married now with one kids but expecting another one soon. My dear contact oshogumspelltemple@live.com if you have any problem that give you pain. contact oshogumspelltemple@live.com today he is helpful

  • Mullar Sharron

    Hi everyone act there.. my name is MULLAR SHARRON I AM FROM GERMANY i will never forget the help DR.TRUST render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how dr.trust help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of dr.trust i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours.he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don’t you give Dr.trust a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using dr.trust to save my marriage. contact him via (ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM) tel +2348156885231.

  • Mullar Sharron

    Hi everyone act there.. my name is MULLAR SHARRON I AM FROM GERMANY i will never forget the help DR.TRUST render to me in my marital life. i have been married for 5 years now and my husband and i love each other very dearly . after 3 years of our marriage my husband suddenly change he was having an affair with a lady outside,i notice it then i was praying for divine intervention the thing became more serious i told my pastor about it we prayed but nothing happen. my husband just came home one day he pick up his things and left me and the kids to his mistress outside at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was searching for help in the internet, i saw many people sharing testimony on how dr.trust help them out with their marital problems so i contacted the email of dr.trust i told him my problem and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place were i can get back my husband within the next 24hours.he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him,that he will never cheat on me again. i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him.friends your case is not too hard why don’t you give Dr.trust a try they work surprises because i know they will help you to fix your relationship with your ex partner. i thank god for using dr.trust to save my marriage. contact him via (ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM) tel +2348156885231

  • hannah

    Hello my good friends i want to say a big thanks and appreciation to the great man Dr ukpoyan of dr.ukpoyanspellhome@gmail.com who bless my womb, i have been married for the past 10year without a child i have look for all kind of help that can make me get pregnant but nothing works, but through an insight i came across Dr ukpoyan profile at the internet when i was searching for help on how i can get a baby, Quickly i contacted him to help me out, he said he will cast a spell that will make me sleep with my partner and get pregnant so he told to have the faith and believe in him, as everything will be fine, and which i did, my friends after doing all the instructions given to me by Dr ukpoyan, a couple of weeks later i went for test and i was detected positively pregnant of 2weeeks and now i am here taking care of my baby girl all this i never believed will happen but with the help of Dr ukpoyan my problems where solved..
    well if you need any help with your problem of delivery issue just log on to Dr ukpoyan on: dr.ukpoyanspellhome@gmail.com
    THANKS TO DR UKPOYAN FOR MY LIFE

  • Andrea Cardinal

    The government should provide doulas of all natures: birth, postpartum, and abortion. They should be as important as the military: organized, funded, and deployed in a similarly serious manner, but with no political agenda.

  • Carey Smith

    I’m a postpartum doula, and I really love caring for people. I do a lot of listening and supporting, and also housework or baby holding. Some women are so happy to hand off the baby, and do the all the work they’ve been looking at, unable to get done, for so long. Others would rather hold their baby while I do the housework. I love cleaning, and since I’m not having any more babies, holding others’ babies is a real treat.

    Even the most socially supported women are still tired and need down time. They have moments where they feel they cannot keep their head above water, let alone thrive. I did not have a lot of postpartum support myself, and my baby needed to be held all the time. It was exhausting, but now he’s a well attached and independent little kid. Some babies are easy-going, and others have a real need for holding and comforting. Postpartum support is so important, whether from friends and family, or from a paid provider. I wish it were subsidized in the United States, so it could be available to more women. We need it.

  • http://www.military.com/spouse/military-deployment/reintegration/returning-to-home-life-after-deployment.html amazing testimony

    How To Get Your Lover Back After Separation?(Dr Brave).

    Hello to the viewers on this site my name is Mary Cranor i was married to one Mr David Cranor we live and love each other so much am 52 years of age now and we both have 3 grow up children i and my husband love and care for each our marriage last for 31 years so few years back my husband traveled to Europe for business he spent about 6 months there coming home he came with a young lady which i was not comfortable with i tried all my best and at the end my husband was able to send this lady out of the house and she return to Europe we love our selves again just as before,but after few years we have been together again an old friend of of main who traveled to another country Later came back to America he has been a good friend to me and my first lover during our high school days he invite me for denier but i refuse he begged me because it has been long we have meet each other we only chart on Facebook and Skype so granted his invitation this happened on the Christmas night December 24 2013 i went out with him hopefully i will come home that same day i know i was very wrong so getting there i spend lot of time with him and i spend the night with him in a hotel room it was all an incident and i was very assumed of my self when i discovered what i did,but the most painful part of it was my husband friend saw me with this man which i did not even know he went and tell my husband all that happened,when i got home the next day my husband sent me picking my stuff he said is over that he needs a divorce i was heart broken i don’t know what to do i love my husband so much and for the sake of my children i can’t let go just like that,i share my problem with my a friend of my we work in the same company he introduce me to a powerful spell caster who also help her in her own time of need his name is DOCTOR BRAVE he help me cast a spell and my husband later came back to me begging me to come back home that was how the great powerful spell caster helped me in fixing back my marriage and getting the man i love back to me am very grateful to him my husband return back to me after seven days the incident occurred,are passing through problem in your marriage or relationship? the answer is here Dr.Brave is here to help you too just as he have helped me contact him now with this bravespellcaster@gmail.com …So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website http://bravespellcaster.yolasite.com, Thanks.

  • Rekha Murthy

    Excellent article. I had just been saying to a friend that I felt a little guilty about how much support my husband and I get from my parents and our babysitter. Her response was similar to Ananda’s: There’s no honor in going it alone, and if you have the opportunity to receive help, take it. I’ve also seen how my toddler thrives in the presence of these other close caregivers, and my husband and I learn from them, too.

  • goodlordpeople

    Why don’t you just get a better husband? I’d have a complete fit if my husband didn’t pick up the slack while I cared for a baby 24/7. Groceries, laundry, and light housework aren’t too much to ask from him.

    • Andrea Cardinal

      my husband did those things on top of helping care for the baby (and again with the baby and the 2 year old older sibling after our second). he couldn’t also treat PPD anxiety and OCD. when he was doing those daily chores or helping with our oldest’s needs, he couldn’t be there, present, for my very bad brain times. my husband is a saint. but he (and I) are only human.

      • SelfPromotionIsNotNews

        I’m glad your husband pitched in. He sounds like a stand-up guy. I mentioned those tasks because those are the tasks the author cited she hired her doula for. She hired a doula to be housemaid and she makes a point that new mothers often feel unsupported in those tasks. I find that to be a bit ridiculous. You shouldn’t hire a doula if all you really need is your DH to get off his butt. If he won’t do trivial tasks while you’re busy keeping your newborn alive, you have a world of problems ahead of you. So, in summary, there should be no need to hire a doula for trivial housework if you have a spouse to help out.

        You and I disagree about a hiring a doula to treat mental illnesses. IMHO, leaving PPD/OCD to a doula is playing with fire. Those are very serious medical conditions. That’s what a MD therapist is for. * * * You don’t even have to have a GED to be a doula. * * *

        Finally, this article is written by a doula who is giving people reasons to hire a doula. Self-serving, much? I’m a little surprised that NPR is allowing such biased reporting.

  • cal

    Yes! my mom came for a week (from across the country) and it was wonderful, she cooked, she cleaned, she told me to hold the baby while she carried in the groceries, she filled our car with gas…and she put the baby to sleep.

    Then after she left women from church stepped in (I’m mormon), brought a few meals, went on walks with me, told me how cute my baby is. The first week I went to church I was surrounded with excited women who “ohhed and ahhed”, it was probably the most positive attention I have ever received.

    Then a 6 weeks later my mom came back again, and all those tips she gave me before clicked this time and I learned so much in one week about how to care for the baby….and now (my baby is almost 4 months) and I still am being supported emotionally by women at church for which I am soo grateful.

    Of course its still been hard and I could always use more sleep, but after reading this I realize how much I rely on my church and mom, and how much harder it could have been, and now I am going to be that much more aware to help in meaningful ways when someone I know is having a baby.

    sorry I guess this was a little bit of post partum elation

  • Holly Ardito

    Excellent article. As a single adoptive mother I sure wish I had thought of a doula in my daughter’s firsts few years. Also, I commend you for not mentioning hormones
    as the cause of PPD. Parenthood is traumatic, no matter how you get there.

  • Sara Hall

    Not a secret. My brother was born in France in the late 1960′s. After her hospital release, my mother was regularly visited at home by a nurse to monitor her and my brother’s health and well-being. The visits ended after several months. France still has one of the best, if not the best, healthcare system in the world.

    • Lisa Murakami

      Not begrudging you that, but I have to say that I was there for a year in 2000-2001 and they were still using that purple stuff for yeast infections. Does NOT work. I can’t recall whether they had anything over the counter or not but I went in to an actual doctor and that’s what she did. I finally just had my mom ship me some Monistat.

      • Sara Hall

        My family lived in France for two years, and I have returned numerous times to visit family friends. During one of those visits with my mother, about a decade ago, she began to cough up some blood on the soon after our arrival. We went to a neighborhood clinic that accepted my mother immediately. I proceeded to provide some basic information at the front desk. (They did not even ask to see our Passports.) Our family friend also added a few details. Within 10 minutes my mother was diagnosed and treated, with additional medicine in tow. Everyone, from the receptionist to the physician, was friendly and respectful. The paperwork was minimal and the total cost was about $25 for everything. She remained well during the remainder of our stay. Perhaps our many excellent encounters with France’s healthcare system are outliers.

        • Lisa Murakami

          I’m sure great experiences were not outliers but rather, as with so many things, the French healthcare system has both strengths and weaknesses. When I was seen for my yeast infection, my appointment “time” was meaningless. The waiting room was so full I had to sit on the floor. They didn’t bother with any sort of a paper robe for modesty, they didn’t even close the door when I was in the stirrups and while it wasn’t directly facing the waiting room, the waiting room was right around the corner.

    • Lisa Murakami

      Also, we have some French friends from Paris who are both MD-researchers (really brilliant people) and they told us over dinner recently that their friends had a child whom nobody in France could diagnose and then his first visit with a pediatrician here in the US (like our friends, the child’s parents came to do research for a year) the pedi dx autism. Child was put into a whole network of resources and support over here and improved dramatically. Went back to France after the year was over and there was nothing for him. Now his parents are trying to help educate French physicians on autism. Which is also interesting insofar as it tells us why the “rates” of autism have “gone up” over here – just a better understanding of the spectrum.

      • Sara Hall

        There are some areas where we are ahead of the curve, no doubt. We still excel in science and medical research as well as in bio-technology. If you are wealthy, then there is no better medical system in the world for you. But if you are not wealthy, like the overwhelming majority of the population, you would achieve better health outcomes at lower costs in France than the US.

        • Lisa Murakami

          Completely agree!

  • Abby Gustchen-Reeff

    If only I’d have had a doula. My childless friends unceremoniously dumped me, my family never did more than show up at the hospital once or twice and buy things for the kid, my husband worked 16 hours a day (2 jobs, thanks to the economic downturn). The 2 of us were completely on our own. I have struggled greatly since my child was born. And 6 years on, I still do. But if I’d had even a fraction of help and support that the author described, I would probably have been able to better transition and would probably have less of a hard time handling this role

    • An Grant

      I’m so sorry to hear this. It would be wonderful if all new mothers could get the support they need. Just having time off of work is not enough. And yes, most people do think it’s just a big fake vacation. And most new mothers don’t want people to think they ‘can’t handle it’.

  • An Grant

    I love this article. I do have one question though; do women really think they can’t take a shower unless someone is watching the baby? It just boggles my mind to think this is common. Am I missing something?

    • TwiddlyStun

      In the moment, babies are either asleep or awake. When asleep, you want to sleep. When awake, they are either happy or unhappy. When happy, you want to be with them! So cute! When unhappy, you feel guilty leaving them. So sad. 20/20 (and non-hormonal, well-rested) hindsight says that a few minutes to shower would have been a fine tradeoff, but it often doesn’t make sense in a particular moment, and the moments build up until it’s overwhelming.

    • Jennifer Johnson

      Twiddly summed this up, but I’ll also add for all the attention postpartum depression gets, I think postpartum anxiety is just as, if not more, common. Add to that the fact that many women these days become mothers having had little or no experience with newborns, and are bombarded with information about SIDS, allergies, and other infant mental and physical health issues, the anxiety level of new motherhood can be through the roof. Even in the best of circumstances there’s plenty of mom-guilt to go around to mothers of children of all ages. To the vulnerable, sleep-deprived, hormonally unstable over-informed and overwhelmed new mother, any moment of *not* tending to the new baby can fill her with guilt, anxiety, and worry. It’s hard to explain unless you’ve been through it or at least witnessed it first hand. As a veteran mom of nearly 12 years now, it seems silly in retrospect, but when I first had a newborn it was very, very real.

    • An Grant

      Well, I suffered from PPD, but never to the point I couldn’t take a shower. I just put the baby in her carrier and took her in the bathroom with me. If this suggestion helps anyone, I will be glad.

      • Jennifer Johnson

        Depression is terrible, but anxiety is its own animal. Your suggestion is great, but when someone suffers from severe anxiety they are not rational. I used to get feelings of panic when anyone else (including the grandparents) touched or picked up the baby.

        • http://www.military.com/spouse/military-deployment/reintegration/returning-to-home-life-after-deployment.html amazing testimony

          Did your Ex husband or wife break your heart?

          My name is Rasasi Josh, i live in California, and i got married four months ago.My husband and i have been living a very happy and lovely life.so as time went on, i began to notice this strange attitude that he was possessing.He was now going out with other girls, to the extent that he was no longer picking up my calls, and he was not even sleeping in my house anymore. I became confused and didn’t know what to do anymore.So i became worried and stranded, that brought so many thoughts into my mind, because i have never experienced a thing like this before in my life.So i decided to visit a spell caster, to see if he can help me out.So immediately i went to the internet, where i saw an amazing testimony of a spell caster who brought someone’s ex lover back, “bravespellcaster@gmail.com” so i contacted him immediately and i explained to him all my problems and he told me that it will be very easy for him to solve, compare to the ones that he has done.and he also gave me some proof to be really sure of his work, and he assured me that my husband will come back to me immediately he is through with the spell casting.and also he told me to put all my trust in him, and i really obeyed him.So it was 8:00 am on the next morning, when i was about going to work, when i received my husband’s call, and he told me that he was coming back home, and he apologized to me, and told me that he is very sorry for the pain that he has cost me.and after some hours later, he really came back home, and that was how we continued our marriage with lots of love and happiness, and our love was now stronger than how it were before.And he also told me that once my heart desire has been granted unto me that i should go and testify of his work right here on the internet. Right now i am the happiest woman on earth today as i am writing this testimony, and i want to really thank “Dr.Brave” for bringing back my husband, and for bringing joy and love to my family.So my greatest advice for you out there who your husband or your wife is acting strange or behaving the same way like this, or you have any problem with your relationship or anything related to do with spell casting, is for you to go and visit this man anytime, and i assure you that he will be of help to you, and i am 100% sure that he will solve it out.Simply contact him on his email via bravespellcaster@gmail.com …So, i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website http://bravespellcaster.yolasite.com, Thanks.

    • Holly Ardito

      Let’s not prejudge. My baby was 9 months old and extremely active when I first brought her home. It took me about 3 weeks to figure out that the only way I could take a shower was to stick her in front of the TV in the portable crib. Not proud of that but it became our morning routine for the next 3 years. And,no, when I am watching this child 14 hours a day 7 days a week, I want to have my brief shower period alone – not with her in the bathroom with me.

    • Andrea Cardinal

      a trigger for my anxiety is hearing my baby cry and babies cry when you leave them. my two year old still cries when she sees me getting ready to get in the shower. sometimes it just was (is!) NOT worth it!

  • Lisa Murakami

    Ananda, this is great. I knew we’d agree on something related to childbirth :) I didn’t have PPD… I had plenty of elation and a spell of “baby blues” for 3(?) days, but I definitely think a PP doula would be really helpful for many women – even those without PPD and *even* those with plenty of elation. In the U.S. today it’s just so rare to live near family, and let’s face it: Even the most helpful grandparents still require some work or stress when hosting is a necessary part of the equation. Hope you are well.

    • Emily

      I agree, having family nearby doesn’t necessarily mean a new mother feels supported. Not all grandparents know how to be supportive, listen, put aside their own needs and wants, or do chores. A lot of them seem to think that holding the baby is all the help you need… Or that you want to hear every single detail of their own pregnancies and births.

      • Lisa Murakami

        YES! I actually craved holding my own baby at times… give me back my baby!!!

        • Emily

          I know… “Here let me hold the baby, and you do the housework…” Say what? I did things differently with my second baby, but I still resent it. I had just given birth for crying out loud. My MIL also has a habit of downplaying whatever I might be experiencing and then saying, oh well I raised three children, or I did this, and I never had such and such. Like she’s actually trying to compete with me and make me feel bad.

          • Emily

            By the way Lisa, I have read some of your blog and you and i agree on so many things… In addition, my first baby (also a boy) was also 9 lbs 10oz.! Induction at 39 weeks, no c-section… Anyway, you’re awesome and please keep up the awesome writing.

          • Lisa Murakami

            Oh thank you!!!!!!! And wow, crazy coincidence on the first babies(!!!)