Tonight at the Newton South High School auditorium, school officials and mental health experts will try to offer some guidance on how to talk to children about suicide and how best to support kids and families reeling from the news of a third teen suicide in this community since the start of the school year.
Tonight’s gathering comes after reports that 17-year-old Roee Grutman, a popular Newton South junior, committed suicide earlier this month. (According to the state Executive Office of Public Safety & Security, Grutman’s death was a result of “asphyxia by hanging.”)
At a memorial service for Grutman last night, hundreds of classmates and family members gathered to remember the “bright, articulate, compassionate” young man, The Boston Globe reports:
“One after another, the speakers at Monday’s service told of a young man who lit up a room when he walked in, and despite his schedule busy with honors classes and sports, always had time for a friend.”
According to parents in the Newton South community, many children are still in shock (as are their parents and teachers) and struggling to comprehend the string of suicides in general, and in particular, the death of a boy who appeared to be so well-adjusted, socially connected and stable.
“I think the kids are beside themselves,” said Elizabeth Knoll, whose 17-year-old daughter, Anya Graubard, is also a Newton South junior and was friends with Roee. “My daughter was gray and pale and tightlipped for the last two days.” (Knoll says Anya gave her permission to be named here.)
Knoll said in Newton — where many kids have been classmates since the age of 4 — Grutman’s out-of-the-blue suicide is particularly excruciating. “No one among his family or friends…could see anything like this coming,” Knoll said. “It’s impossible to make any sense of it.” Continue reading