I saw this flyer recently on my gym’s bulletin board. The loneliness and loss of identity it describes are surely shared by a great many people who have to leave sports, famous or not, but what comes to mind is the suicide of Junior Seau, the 43-year-old former NFL player who shot himself in the chest last week.
Much of the coverage has focused on the possibility that Seau, like many other football players, suffered concussions that wrought permanent damage to his brain. But what struck me most were the descriptions of him as a player — upbeat, intense, loving the game — and then his life after retiring: He drove his car off a cliff in 2010. His girlfriend told police he assaulted her.

Junior Seau smiles during 2007 football training camp in Foxborough, Mass. (AP)
“I’m sorry to say, Superman is dead,” said San Diego Chargers chaplain Shawn Mitchell after Seau’s suicide, according to The Associated Press. “All of us can appear to be super, but all of us need to reach out and find support when we’re hurting.”
Finding support is the idea behind the therapy group that Dr. Matthew Krouner, the Brookline post-doctoral fellow in clinical psychology who posted that notice above, is aiming to put together.
It would not be only for elite athletes, he said. “This group could be for anybody who has at one time identified themselves as an athlete. It could be high school, it could be they like to run marathons, it could be they play pick-up basketball once a week. But once you’re not able to do that anymore, even if it’s not a professional identity, there’s a real sense of loss and a grieving that can take place. For elite athletes, the transition out of sport is conceptualized as a loss or grief experience.”
‘For elite athletes, the transition out of sport is conceptualized as a loss or grief experience.’
Dr. Krouner never had a stellar sports career himself, he says, but always played, and had long been fascinated by stories of pro athletes whose lives deteriorated after they retired from sports at young ages, when many people are just starting their careers. They had to face the monumental challenge of losing an “all-encompassing identity — it’s how you relate to other people, it’s how you use your body, it’s your mental stimulation.”
Athletes have become more open in recent years about mental health issues, reducing the stigma. So “it seems like a good time for more supports to be out there,” Dr. Krouner said. “There tends to be a sort of expected toughness factor among athletes and that may make them less likely to seek out mental health resources, but hopefully by putting more and more out there, it can appeal to the need that is present.”
That need is very real, said Justine Siegal, director of sports partnerships at Northeastern University’s Sport in Society program and a doctoral candidate in sports psychology there.
Plan the exit well in advance
It is estimated that about 20 percent of athletes need “considerable psychological adjustment” after they leave the sport, she said. Continue reading →